Why Everyone Has a ‘Chair of Shame’ and That’s Okay

We all have one. The ‘Chair of Shame’. It might be in the bedroom, tucked neatly under a pile of “I’ll wear that again” jumpers, or lurking in a corner beneath a mountain of clean-but-not-yet-folded laundry. Maybe it’s a sofa arm. Maybe it’s an exercise bike that hasn’t seen a single squat since 2021. But whatever form it takes, the Chair of Shame is a universal truth - and honestly, it’s time we stopped feeling bad about it.

The Chair Has Purpose (Even if It Looks Like Chaos)

Let’s get one thing straight: the Chair of Shame isn’t lazy. It’s efficient. It’s the halfway house between wardrobe and wash basket - a soft landing spot for clothes too clean to wash and too creased to hang up. It’s the place you mentally file under “I’ll deal with that later” but never quite do, because later somehow becomes next Tuesday. In fact, that chair is doing a vital job. It saves you time when you’re rushing out the door and just need something to throw on. It holds things so you don’t have to. It’s your personal staging area for life’s daily wardrobe indecision.

A Reflection of Real Life, Not Instagram Life

Scroll through social media and you’d think everyone’s home looks like a minimalist showroom. In reality? Somewhere behind those perfect angles sits a chair that’s doing its bit for domestic sanity. It’s proof that you live in your space - that clothes are worn, days are busy, and perfection is for showrooms, not bedrooms. So the next time you feel tempted to tidy it up for the sake of “aesthetic peace”, remind yourself: nobody’s life is crease-free.

The Psychology of the Pile

There’s actually a comforting logic behind the chair. Psychologists might call it a “transitional space” - a way to delay decisions. You know you should fold or hang those jeans, but you’re conserving energy for bigger choices (like what’s for tea or whether to wash your hair tonight). In short, your Chair of Shame is helping you cope.

Rebranding the Chair

Maybe it’s time to stop calling it a “Chair of Shame” altogether. What about the “Chair of Realism”? The “Clothes Holding Zone”? The “Pending Laundry Throne”? Give it a title worthy of its true role in your life - a loyal companion that supports you through the never-ending cycle of wardrobe chaos.

Long Live the Chair

Whether it’s piled high or perfectly curated, the Chair of Shame is a quiet act of rebellion against unrealistic tidiness. It’s a small reminder that you’re human, you’re busy, and you’ve got bigger things to do than perfectly fold a pair of joggers. So next time someone side-eyes your clothing mountain, smile knowingly. They’ve got one too - it’s just hidden somewhere out of shot.